Showing posts with label same-sex marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label same-sex marriage. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Maureen Dowd, "Happily Never After?": Gay Good, Jew Bad?

Gay good, Jew bad? Or would those from the New Left tell me that I am being politically incorrect and should phrase this question, Gay good, Israeli bad? Or better still, Gay good, Zionist bad? But what happens when a gay is also a Jew? Does his/her homosexuality trump his/her Jewishness?

In her third consecutive New York Times opinion piece concerning same-sex marriage entitled "Happily Never After?" (http://www.nytimes.com/2013/04/03/opinion/dowd-happily-never-after.html?_r=0), Maureen Dowd, a would-be champion of human rights, publishes a touching short essay that she received from Max Mutchnick. Mutchnick, of course, created and wrote "Will & Grace" with David Kohan.

Mutchnick, who was married by a rabbi to entertainment lawyer Erik Hyman, writes:

"More and more people think it’s wrong to hate gays. The support for same-sex marriage now exceeds the opposition to it. According to Rick Santorum, that’s all because of 'Will & Grace.' (Thanks, cutie. DVD sales are way up!) But, if the good guys are on my side, why do I feel so depleted? I live in a place where all men are created equal, but, for some reason, I am not afforded the same rights. Should my take-away be: I am not a man? It feels as though the Supreme Court is O.K. with that notion."

My recommendation to Mr. Mutchnick: a little patience. There are the individual justices of the Supreme Court, and then there is the Supreme Court as an entirety. Rarely do Supreme Court justices vote unanimously. So before jumping up and down and beating our breasts in dismay, let's first let the Supreme Court reach a decision. I am hopeful that gays will be granted the absolute equality that they deserve.

But back to Maureen, with whom there is still unfinished business.

In a March 2010 Times op-ed entitled "Loosey Goosey Saudi" (see: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/03/03/opinion/03dowd.html), Maureen Dowd claimed that Saudi Arabia is upgrading the rights of women:

"But after spending 10 days here, I can confirm that, at their own galactically glacial pace, they are chipping away at gender apartheid and cultural repression."

Dowd, however, ignored an abomination involving the Saudi legal system pursuant to which a Saudi woman, who had been gang raped, was sentenced to a one-year prison term and 100 lashes for committing adultery and trying to abort the resultant fetus (see: http://jgcaesarea.blogspot.co.il/2010/03/shame-on-maureen-dowd.html). Unusual in the Desert Kingdom? No way.

Similarly, Dowd remained silent concerning the issue of "honor killings" in her host country. Had she written on this issue, her pleasure tour would have come to an abrupt end.

More recently, following a Times op-ed entitled "Neocons Slither Back" (http://www.nytimes.com/2012/09/16/opinion/sunday/dowd-neocons-slither-back.html), Dowd was accused of anti-Semitism. As summarized by Politico's Dylan Byers (http://www.politico.com/blogs/media/2012/09/maureen-dowd-meets-antisemitism-charge-135700.html):

"New York Times columnist Maureen Dowd set the Jewish political community on fire today with a column about the Republican ticket's foreign policy proposals that, according to her critics, peddled anti-Semitic imagery.

Dowd fairly observed that neither Mitt Romney nor Paul Ryan are experts in the field of foreign policy, but asserted their strategy was orchestrated by a 'neocon puppet master' who was leading the neocon effort to 'slither back' into power.

Such language, to say nothing of the questionable legitimacy of her claims, struck experts on American-Israeli relations as an inappropriate (though perhaps unintentional) appeal to anti-Semitic stereotypes, and especially offensive ahead of the first night of the Jewish New Year, Rosh Hashanah."

Observing the outrage expressed by Steven A. Cook, Jeffrey Goldberg, Blake Hounshell, Daniel Halper and Jonathan Tobin, Byers reported that Times editorial page editor Andrew Rosenthal had defended Dowd from these charges by declaring:

"No fair-minded reading of Maureen Dowd's column supports the allegations you and others are making. She makes no reference, direct or implied, to anyone's religion."

Yeah, right. Not one of these commentators critical of Dowd, from both the left and the right, is "fair-minded." As best I know, Dowd never responded to the accusations.

But heck, why shouldn't Maureen be cut some slack? Not long ago, New York Times columnist Thomas Friedman wrote (http://www.nytimes.com/2011/12/14/opinion/friedman-newt-mitt-bibi-and-vladimir.html?ref=opinion):

"I sure hope that Israel’s prime minister, Benjamin Netanyahu, understands that the standing ovation he got in Congress this year was not for his politics. That ovation was bought and paid for by the Israel lobby."

Is this any less horrifying than what Maureen wrote?

Then there was Roger Cohen's New York Times op-ed "Obama in Netanyahu's Web" (http://www.nytimes.com/2009/05/28/opinion/28iht-edcohen.html), whose title was painfully in keeping with the anti-Semitic tradition of depicting Jews as voracious spiders. As Rosenthal later acknowledged to me, this "was not a good headline."

And let's not forget Nicholas Kristof's  recent retweet of a message referring to AIPAC as one of "the 2 Most Pig Like Lobbies" (see: http://jgcaesarea.blogspot.co.il/2013/01/nicholas-kristof-retweets-obama-told-2.html). We never received an explanation concerning this horror from Nick, who soon thereafter took book-writing leave from The Times.

In Mutchnick's message to Dowd, he writes:

"It’s tiring being a member of the last group in America subject to official discrimination."

Max, you also say, "I’m like every other dad in this park: horn-rimmed glasses and baseball hat, New York Times folded in quarters, ignoring my kids dressed in Ralph Lauren Collection playing." Well, you might want to consider some of the vile "unofficial" intolerance being voiced against Jews in that newspaper folded under your arm.

David Brooks, "Freedom Loses One": A Victory for the Good Life! Ask the IRS!

Yes, there are benefits to being married, and if you don't believe me ("Yes, dear. Coming in a moment, dear"), ask your friendly Internal Revenue Service agent. He or she will immediately turn your attention to the first page of your Form 1040, where you can tick off (or do I mean "check") your spouse and list your dependents (those persons roaming around the house who begin each sentence with "Can I have . . ."), and then multiply the total on line 42 of the second page by $3,800 and use the amount as a credit. And lo and behold, your humble and long suffering servant has been creditworthy all these many years.

In his latest New York Times op-ed entitled "Freedom Loses One" (http://www.nytimes.com/2013/04/02/opinion/brooks-freedom-loses-one.html?_r=0), David Brooks observes that an imbalance has arisen between freedom and restraint, giving rise to:

  • "A decaying social fabric, especially among the less fortunate."
  • "Decline in marriage."
  • "More children raised in unsteady homes."
  • "Higher debt levels as people spend to satisfy their cravings."
My cravings have given rise to higher debt levels, which are destroying our social fabric? Oh my goodness! I'm returning my Panasonic 55", which I am paying for in 24 equal installments, tomorrow . . . not.

Brooks continues:

"Marriage is one of those institutions — along with religion and military service — that restricts freedom. Marriage is about making a commitment that binds you for decades to come. It narrows your options on how you will spend your time, money and attention."

Now, I don't know too much about religion, but marriage and military service constraining my time, money and attention? I think I can darned well vouch for David on that point.

Brooks immediately goes on to say:

"Whether they understood it or not, the gays and lesbians represented at the court committed themselves to a certain agenda. They committed themselves to an institution that involves surrendering autonomy. They committed themselves to the idea that these self-restrictions should be reinforced by the state. They committed themselves to the idea that lifestyle choices are not just private affairs but work better when they are embedded in law."

"Whether they understood it or not"? Hmm. ("What's that you said, dear? Every word that comes out of my mouth annoys you, dear?")

Brooks's conclusion:

"The proponents of same-sex marriage used the language of equality and rights in promoting their cause, because that is the language we have floating around. But, if it wins, same-sex marriage will be a victory for the good life, which is about living in a society that induces you to narrow your choices and embrace your obligations."

Ah, yes, "a victory for the good life"! Celebrating my triumph and roaring with laughter, I just spilled half a cup of steaming coffee over my underwear. As the philosopher Hegel (not that moron, Chuck Hagel) would tell you, pleasure cannot exist without pain.

Bottom line: I have always favored same-sex marriage, but not because marriage "narrows your choices" and compels you to "embrace your obligations." Rather, it's a simple matter of equality.

Moreover, if Bill and Hillary Clinton can maintain their farce of a marriage - the architects are already busy planning Bill's semi-detached "Monica Wing" of the White House should Hillary win in 2016), why shouldn't anyone be entitled to engage in this folly.

"Just kidding, dear."